Dana Millar
Counselling
Self Esteem and Body Image therapy for women
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
Tired of feeling like you're never quite enough?
Are you frequently comparing yourself to other women, criticizing your appearance, questioning your worth, or waiting to feel better about yourself before you fully live your life. You might look like you have it all together on the outside, but inside you're carrying self-doubt, insecurity, and a relentless inner critic. No matter what you accomplish, it never quite feels like enough. You may find yourself obsessing over your body, seeking reassurance from others, struggling with emotional or binge eating, or worrying about what people think of you.
If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Many of the women I work with have spent years believing that if they could just lose weight, be more productive, more successful, or somehow become a different version of themselves, they would finally feel confident and at peace. Unfortunately, the goalposts keep moving, and the feeling of "not enough" remains.
How do I know if I have healthy Body Image
and Self Esteem?
Signs of low self-esteem and poor body image often show up in how we talk to ourselves and how we cope with difficult emotions. You might recognize yourself in these signs:
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Frequent Body Checking: Constantly looking in mirrors, comparing your appearance to others, or avoiding reflections entirely.
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A Loud Inner Critic: Experiencing a persistent mental commentary that focuses on your flaws, mistakes, and perceived inadequacies.
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Emotional Disconnection: Feeling overwhelmed by shame or anxiety about your body, and trying to numb or avoid those feelings.
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Life on Hold: Waiting to try new activities, date, or socialize until your body looks a certain way or until you feel "good enough."
Conversely, healthy self-esteem doesn't mean you love how you look every single day. It means practicing body neutrality and self-acceptance—knowing your worth as a human being is completely separate from your physical appearance or temporary failures. ​​​
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What does healthy self esteem look like?
You are Flawsome
You accept your imperfections as a part of wonderful you, and value your body for all the things it can do.
You are Loved
You know that people love and value you for who you are, regardless of your size, your IQ, or if you're sporting a few blemishes. You don't have to change yourself to be worthy of love. You were born worthy.
You take care of yourself
You spend time doing things you enjoy, you sleep well, and you eat well without worrying about your weight or counting calories.
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One of the most rewarding parts of my work is helping women reconnect with their inherent worth and develop a kinder, more compassionate relationship with themselves. Meaningful change doesn't happen overnight, but it is possible.
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Looking for Support With Binge Eating?
Because our relationship with our body often affects our relationship with food, I also provide specialized support for emotional eating and binge eating. Learn more about Binge Eating Counselling
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Building Self-Worth From the Inside Out
Healthy self-esteem doesn't mean loving the way you look every day or feeling confident all the time. It means recognizing that your worth is not determined by your appearance, your accomplishments, or other people's approval. Together, we'll explore the experiences, beliefs, and emotional wounds that may be shaping the way you see yourself today. We'll work to develop a more compassionate and stable sense of self-worth so you can spend less time fighting yourself and more time living your life.
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Imagine Feeling Good Enough
Not because your body changed. Not because everyone approved of you. Not because you finally got everything right. But because you've learned to value yourself exactly as you are.
My approach draws from evidence-based therapies including:
• Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) to explore feelings such as shame, rejection, and inadequacy.
• Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help you respond differently to self-critical thoughts and move toward what matters most.
• Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to process difficult experiences that may be contributing to low self-esteem, body image concerns, or emotional eating.
• The Change Triangle® to help understand and work through the emotions that often exist beneath anxiety, self-criticism, and perfectionism.